@Appleblossom wrote:
@chibam I heartily agree with your careful list. It was not a strong feeling, but I took a risk to share that sense I had, and you responded with care, thanks.
No problem, @Appleblossom 🙂. And thanks!
@Appleblossom wrote:
@Paperdaisy
Its GREAT that you were able listen to your instincts and not stay with people who may have been a bad fit. I felt a response of "I wish" when I read ..."Any time I felt it wasn't right, I straight away didn't go back." I never felt I had that luxury, my sense of options were so low and there was a strong moral impetus for me (relating to motherhood and my own studies in the area prior to being a mother) to ensure I followed up and tried to engage with the possibilities within "therapy". Other people's needs dominated until recently for genuine reasons.
I, too, was constrained by the moral implications of leaving therapy the wrong way. Specifically, I needed a way of leaving therapy that didn't send my therapist a message that she sucked. Because how can we condone such treatment of another human being if we would never want that treatment visited upon ourselves? "Do unto others..."
So I needed a way out that was based on a premise other then that she was a bad therapist. Something such as circumstances beyond my control preventing me from continuing our treatment; or that I had been "cured". As it happened, the latter was what I eventually got. Not for lack of searching for their former, though.
@Historylover, your last post has been deleted (I hope you are okay? 😕🤗). But I think I remember it containing some comments about monitoring a patient's length of treatment under a therapist, and comparing their level of reported progress in that time.
What I would add to that is that all appraisals of the therapist's progress with the patient must be confidential, and hidden from the therapist in question. A legal assurance of that is the only way you will ever get honest feedback about the therapist and their treatment.
That was what really foiled me during my treatment. I was on the Medicare discount scheme, so I had to regularly see my GP in relation to my mental health treatment. But because I had to surrender my doctor-patient privelage in order to access the scheme (i.e. my GP was legally free to tell my therapist anything I told him), I had to guard my true feelings about my therapist, and so I had to falsely tell him that my treatment was going fine. If my doctor-patient privelage had been intact, I would've probably been down on my hands and knees, begging him to help me get out of my treatment.
