Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

[Faith-and-Hope]

Yeah ..... all really complex @Former-Member. No, mil hasn't moved in with us, but WH is as good as moved in with her .... jogs to her house and back twice a day and eats two of his meals there ..... it's an enmeshed situation that is just a progressive part of his undiagnosed mi issues and not something I can do anything about. They are both unwell, and all I can do is keep trying to hold the fort together here for now.

S2 has burnt out and dropped his bundle. He is not wanting to blame his dad and it's turned onwards as self-blame, mirroring WH's accusations towards him about being lazy and incompetent (designed to make him step up ..... mil's parenting ideas) like a self-fulfilling prophesy .... but WH is swinging between "good cop" (aka Father Christmas) and "bad cop" (sl*dge h*mmer) ....

I have to leave it to the psych to work it out cos any time I speak up it is making things worse. Mil has succeeded in invalidating me at this point in time, but that won't last. The wheels are starting to fall off this thing as I had been prepped that they would.

Hard to walk through .... but so glad to have the forums and friends irl .....

Battening down the hatches and trying to just stay calm .... and walking .... and painting .....

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[Former-Member]

@Faith-and-Hope

oh goodness it does sound like a storm brewing

yes if mil is fuelling WH she will be loving every minute of it.

do hope that your son is only slightly bruised and once returns safely to the fold mends quickly

so good that you have your painting and your many friends on here supporting you.

take it all dont be giving it out at the moment. need to reserve all of your strength for the main arena

seriously do take care none of us are invincible xx

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thanks @Former-Member ...... 💜💐

[Former-Member]

@Shaz51
Checking in to see if there is a little something in the self care department happening this weekend.
Darcy

[Former-Member]

@Faith-and-Hope
I know I don't say much to you as your situation is so very different but think of you often too,
Darcy

[Faith-and-Hope]

Thank you @Former-Member ..... I hope to be able to write one day the insight has broken through to my husband, and that he is taking medication and making lifestyle changes.  I am taking courage from your strength in your situation ....

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[Determined]

Hugs @Faith-and-Hope

Thinking of you. 

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member, just doing little bits around the house today , hubby thinks he is coming down with the lu now xx

what are you up too today xx

[Former-Member]

Not the man flu @Shaz51 ... just what you need. Wet here, cleaning our sub zero refrigeration device today, have a beast in with at the butcher awaiting transfer to our freezer following dissection.
Darcy

[Shaz51]

I should do my little freezer today @Former-Member

you will have meat for a while

Not the man flu @Shaz51 ... just what you need ---- NOT !! still got this stiff , sore neck ,